Hi Friends! I hope you are doing well today!
Have you ever had someone say something to you that just broke your heart and hurt your feelings to the core? Of course, you have. Everyone has. And it especially hurts when it comes from your child.
Being an avid reader, I came across a dialog that made me realize what was happening in my own life; my relationship with my daughter who will be 25 next month.
This is from Elizabeth Berg's Once Upon a Time, There Was You:
Two friends talking: "You need to let her do some serious hating on you."
"What do you mean?"
"I mean she needs to feel free to hate you. Otherwise, she'll never free herself from you."
"Yeah, easy for you to say. You have sons."
"Well sons do it too! My sons had to hate me so they could leave and grow up. And they still hate me sometimes. They really hurt my feelings, sometimes! I've told you about stuff they've done. Come on, Irene. You know that's the way it goes. Kids are cruel to their parents. You did it too. When your father used to come visit, you'd be mean to him, if not in deed, then in thought. Then after he left, you'd be racked with guilt because you loved him."
This was my Ah Ha moment. So now I get it. My daughter is disconnecting with me so that she can be independent and on her own. I guess this is very normal and part of life. I am over the hurt now. And proud that my daughter will be moving out in March to share an apartment with her friend.
Isn't she gorgeous! And smart too.
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Have a wonderful evening!